When we hear the word “trauma,” we often think of big, dramatic events like car accidents, natural disasters, or physical abuse. But trauma can be much more subtle than that. It can be the result of small, repeated experiences that can add up over time and affect our daily lives in profound ways.
What is Trauma?
Trauma is an experience that overwhelms our ability to cope, leaving us feeling helpless, scared, or disconnected from ourselves and others.
It can be caused by a wide range of events, including:
- Childhood experiences like bullying, neglect, or emotional abuse
- Relationship problems like infidelity, gaslighting, or emotional manipulation
- Work-related stress or burnout
- Social media pressure or cyberbullying
- Medical procedures or health crises
- Loss of a loved one or a significant life change
Trauma Symptoms: You May Be Surprised
Trauma symptoms can be sneaky and may not always seem related to the traumatic event. Here are some common symptoms that you may not associate with trauma:
- Procrastination: Putting off tasks or decisions because they feel overwhelming or too difficult
- Perfectionism: Trying to control every aspect of your life or striving for unrealistic standards
- Substance use: Using drugs, alcohol, or other substances to cope with emotions or numb pain
- Overeating or under eating: Using food to comfort or punish yourself
- Workaholism: Working excessively long hours or throwing yourself into your job to avoid emotions or relationships
- People-pleasing: Saying yes to everyone and everything, even if it means sacrificing your own needs and desires
- Difficulty sleeping or concentrating: Struggling to relax or focus due to racing thoughts or anxiety
- Physical symptoms: Experiencing headaches, stomach problems, or other physical complaints that don’t seem to have a medical explanation
Why Do We Develop These Symptoms?
When we experience trauma, our brains and bodies go into survival mode. We may develop coping mechanisms to deal with the stress and anxiety of the traumatic event, but these mechanisms can become stuck and continue to affect us long after the event is over.
For example, if you experienced bullying as a child, you may have developed a people-pleasing strategy to avoid conflict or rejection. But as an adult, this strategy can lead to burnout, resentment, and difficulty setting boundaries.
The Good News: You Can Heal
The good news is that trauma symptoms are not a sign of weakness or failure. They are a sign that your body and brain are trying to protect you from further harm. And with the right support and tools, you can heal and recover from trauma.
What Can You Do?
If you’re experiencing any of these trauma symptoms, here are some steps you can take:
- Seek support: Talk to a trusted friend, family member, or mental health professional about your experiences and feelings.
- Practice self-care: Engage in activities that bring you joy and help you relax, such as exercise, meditation, or creative pursuits.
- Challenge negative thoughts: Notice when you’re thinking critical or perfectionistic thoughts, and try to reframe them in a more positive and realistic way.
- Set boundaries: Learn to say no and set healthy limits with others to protect your time and energy.
- Seek professional help: Consider working with a therapist or counselor who specializes in trauma and anxiety.
Remember, healing from trauma takes time, patience, and support. But with the right tools and resources, you can overcome trauma symptoms and live a more fulfilling, joyful life.
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